Surprise! Jokes On You! The Submissive Holds The Power.
How do you know a True Life Stylist from a Fraud? In BDSM, The Sub holds all the Power. And the Esoteric of BDSM knows this. The Exoteric does not. Because they are Copying. They don’t know.
Every Dom/me and Master/Mistress knows that it is the sub who holds all of the Power.
The Dominator Serves the sub. The Sub makes the Rules. The Dominator takes the sub through the Sub’s Journey for the sub. The Dominator Serves the sub. What does the Dominator get? The Satisfaction of being Trusted.
It is a Controlled Environment — Scripted or Improvised — Built entirely on Mutual Trust.
The most… deepest… most honorable Trust you could ever, possibly know. And the reward for that level of Trust is profound.
Trust. This is the real reason why so many people are attracted to BDSM. It’s the real reason why I never want to leave the Dungeon. That and the Freedom.
The Freedom.
The Freedom
I may never leave the Dungeon ever again.
For the Freedom alone. Freedom to say, “Call me Goddess Imagination or Goddess Queen. See me as I really am. I am Satan’s Wife.” And you never have to hold back or think, “Will they judge me?”
Not in the Dungeon.
Never in the Dungeon. Rule #2 No Judgment. Not ever. Not once. Not In The Dungeon.
You are free to throw open the doors of the Dungeon and say there, “THIS IS WHO I AM!” And every last one of us has that same, knowing understanding.
Are you new to opening the depths of your Dreams? Or are you and your Shadow Dreams old friends?
In the Dungeon, the Masks come off.
31 October 2021. I moved to New York City. I was picking out a Costume. I couldn’t do it. I tried on 4 different things that night and when I was done, I was dressed as… Me. Just Myself. I was wearing my Corset, my Boots, my Flogger at my waist, and my Bull Whip.
I have a Bull Whip.
“I will never wear a mask again,” I said to myself that night. I went out with The Imp King.
People asked me all night, “What are you supposed to be?”
“What do you think I am?” I asked.
Now this was funny.
“Indiana Jones?” they asked. I knew they were embarrassed. I love Psychology.
“No,” I said boldly.
They did The Shifty Eyes as if they their Mothers would jump out at them right there on the Streets of New York and say, “Ah Ha! You had a dirty thought!”
And then they said, “A Dominatrix.”
“Yes,” I said. “Only…” I leaned in closer. “I’m not in Costume.”
BOOM! They knew they were safe with me and they laid out all of their dreams and wishes to me.
I have never worn a mask or a Costume since.
Did I ever wear a mask?
I had Two Subs in my life who were precious to me. One was “unofficial.” The other… Hmmmmm… He was my Pet. I loved him so. It was he who named me Fae Queen.
Both were Catholic Men. Both lived in terror of their Significant Partners finding out who they really were. One lived in greater fear of his Community finding out. And I watched the Psychological Damage on him enfold while he lived torn between his True Self and his False Reputation that he wore as a Mask to hide who he truly was. My little bitch.
In All Seriousness
You cannot hide your Shadow Self from your Significant Other and be in a Healthy Relationship or be Mentally Healthy. You cannot. If you cannot “come clean” about how “dirty” you really are with your Partner, then you will never grow beyond where you are.
The Spouse who is intolerant of your Shadow Self is a Spouse who does not know or practice Unconditional Love. The reason why so many Spouses fear BDSM is because they think it’s all Violence and Debaucherous Sex. They don’t understand it. And it scares them.
Closer to the Truth, it probes at a side of themselves that they don’t understand, and that scares them even more. Let’s get right down to the point here.
We’re talking about Your Humanity, your Sexuality, and Your Carnal Self.
The 12 Ethics makes this a Safe and Ethical Journey that will keep you solid on the side of “Safe.” Let’s dip your toes in and go a little deeper.
